What to Do When You Run Into an Ex Hookup

Regardless if the split was amicable or a huge heart-wrenching disaster, crossing paths with an ex hookup is never easy.
When you run into an ex hookup, your objective is to be as gracious, but brief as possible. And since not all encounters with the ex are created equal, we have identified a few scenarios to help you prepare for that potentially awkward moment.

•  When You’re the One Who Got Dumped

In the unfortunate event that you bump into the guy who gutted you emotionally, the first thing you should do is put on a brave face and keep your composure. This means no screaming, blaming, or even crying these shameless shenanigans are best save for your friends.  And you definitely wouldn’t want to confirm that it was a smart move on his part to ditch you. So no matter how poorly you’ve been coping with the split, when he asks how you’ve been, just flash your most charming smile and say, “Great!” Then carry on.

•  When You’re the One Who Dumped Him

Men behave differently from women when they’ve been hurt. While it might be within your emotional capacity to treat the asshole that ran your heart through the shredder in a warm manner, when you’re the asshole, don’t expect the same treatment. Make sure you’re prepared in the likely event that he gives you the cold shoulder, and make it a point not to dwell on it. Likewise, hold back on being too nice or overly concerned. This is a sign that means you want to lessen your guilt, and might even lead him on.

•  When You’re Still Tempted

Here’s a scenario where you kind of secretly hope he’d run into you: You’re out with your friends, looking gorgeous and feeling fantastic. You’ve downed a few and suddenly… you’re missing him. Hold it, take a deep breath, and think of all the reasons why you are not meant to hookup with him. Then, remind yourself of how tough it is to reach this good place you’re currently in. Don’t even think of wasting that kind of confidence and energy on him, but instead, channel them towards that hotter guy at the bar.